the sex worker’s dilemma

wargasmmm:

errrbecca:

i want to complain about work but i don’t want abolitionists to use my blog as fodder: the sex worker’s dilemma.

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i looked up deed polling and I don’t understand what it has to do with name changes, like you can just declare your name changed and that’s it?  you don’t have to pay 109.87?  I want my money back and adjusted for inflation. 

yilduza replied to your post “i can’t tell how much what i’m worrying about is real and how much is…”

i hope you can find some kind of strategy to make you feel better bb :c

my strategy!  is to check in with other people to an annoying degree and to an annoying degree like peeta.  bc, like, it always starts with something real: climate change is real, for example, and so is the fact that customers at my club are increasingly awful. and then it goes without very many jumps to: the world is ending and I will probably be homeless and dead very shortly respectively.  

which as my therapist keeps reminding me, are not super probable right now.  

so

AND YET

:/

Chance (2002)

why does his hair always look like uncooked ramen

i can’t tell how much what i’m worrying about is real and how much is ridiculous and distorted and it’s frustrating. I think probably ridiculous and distorted.  

however, I still feel terrible and I think the answer is cinnamon toast pancakes.  

and I wish it were possible to try and think about my feelings without them getting inflated and completely out of control.  Is that possible?  not for me right now. 

leighalanna:

clarawebbwillcutoffyourhead:

Yeah I love Jennifer crusie so much! Both my mom and my bubbe were romance reading fools but bubbe liked regency romances & my mom likes modern ones ad loves crusie. When I used to visit them in Iowa like, bubbe had a whole shed filled with boxes of romances! My dad would be so pissed when I came back loaded down with them I would shed them in the airport sometimes.  But the Fred story stuck with me! My mom would sometimes have others of hers, I remember welcome to temptation especially, SO GOOD. Why is it genre fiction can get away with talking about money and reality stuff like finances and having poor women and literachur won’t? Like two years ago I bought every crusie book I could find on amazon and gave them to my mom in case she was missing any.
The Fred one is my fave (bc of Fred) and then the ones in temptation/with that family, but I also love the one that was Hammett themed! They’re so SMART and hilarious. I love her. I even read her anthology about pride and prejudice.  (My favourite ya author loves her too)

Oh man, I don’t know why I just saw this now, but all of it makes me happy.
I use the con technique that Davy uses in Welcome to Temptation and Faking It to sell songs, and it works like a dream.
I actually wrote a breathless fan mail to her about that about six months ago, but got a form letter back. :(
But you’re totally right re: genre fiction (esp romance!). I can’t think of any group of fiction media where, for instance, consent is so reliably discussed in a nuanced and pleasant way (see also: why georgette heyer is awesome).

does she have a site that you can interact with more directly?  I wrote to Hilary McKay a couple years ago via a form on her site and she totally answered!  I had to check religiously for a few weeks to find it.  it’s so silly and maybe weird (given how I feel about like—pedestals and audiences and privacy) but hearing from authors is the most amazing the in the entire world.  the internet!  what a time to be alive! one time sarah rees brennan responded to an email where I asked her about—mmm I don’t even remember now but I think it was fanny burney— and it was thrilling.

leighalanna:

clarawebbwillcutoffyourhead:

Yeah I love Jennifer crusie so much! Both my mom and my bubbe were romance reading fools but bubbe liked regency romances & my mom likes modern ones ad loves crusie. When I used to visit them in Iowa like, bubbe had a whole shed filled with boxes of romances! My dad would be so pissed when I came back loaded down with them I would shed them in the airport sometimes.
But the Fred story stuck with me! My mom would sometimes have others of hers, I remember welcome to temptation especially, SO GOOD. Why is it genre fiction can get away with talking about money and reality stuff like finances and having poor women and literachur won’t? Like two years ago I bought every crusie book I could find on amazon and gave them to my mom in case she was missing any.

The Fred one is my fave (bc of Fred) and then the ones in temptation/with that family, but I also love the one that was Hammett themed! They’re so SMART and hilarious. I love her. I even read her anthology about pride and prejudice.
(My favourite ya author loves her too)

Oh man, I don’t know why I just saw this now, but all of it makes me happy.

I use the con technique that Davy uses in Welcome to Temptation and Faking It to sell songs, and it works like a dream.

I actually wrote a breathless fan mail to her about that about six months ago, but got a form letter back. :(

But you’re totally right re: genre fiction (esp romance!). I can’t think of any group of fiction media where, for instance, consent is so reliably discussed in a nuanced and pleasant way (see also: why georgette heyer is awesome).

does she have a site that you can interact with more directly?  I wrote to Hilary McKay a couple years ago via a form on her site and she totally answered!  I had to check religiously for a few weeks to find it.  it’s so silly and maybe weird (given how I feel about like—pedestals and audiences and privacy) but hearing from authors is the most amazing the in the entire world.  the internet!  what a time to be alive! one time sarah rees brennan responded to an email where I asked her about—mmm I don’t even remember now but I think it was fanny burney— and it was thrilling.

mmaryalice replied to your post “I will probably go back on medication I need to be able to leave the…”

I’m in that dilemma of lookin for nonbenzo antianxiety/depression thing but they’re all so scary :(

i know it’s depressing in its own right

I just found out something interesting about the book The Panopticon I thought you’d appreciate!

I’m doing a sociology subject at Uni and at the moment we’re looking at the sociology of health and medicine. My lecturer was going through different theories about the sociology of medicine and one is this theory about surveillance medicine. Foucault developed it with his ideas about panopticons and panopticism. (I might get this a bit wrong) but the idea is that if we’re surveyed we’ll learn self-surveillance to take control of our own health.

Anyway, my lecturer mentioned this experiment called The Peckham Experiment around the 1930’s/40’s. It was a council housing development (state funded housing) in a poor area in London. There’s a lot of them, they’re called estates. But with this one the idea was that it was live-in a health centre, but specifically built in a way so that the people who lived there could be watched and their habits analysed to kinda understand health habits of working class people, but also how communities organise themselves. There’s some photos of it here. You can see how there is lots of glass and windows. They were aware that it was an experiment and they were being watched, but it’s still pretty creepy and unnerving. It seems hard to find info online which criticises it in the way my lecturer did, but he referred to it as like a panopticon in the style of the prison design, using poor working class people to gather data in a pretty unethical way.

And now THIS is how it relates. Trying to find more info about it, I found this post by Jenni Fagan saying how she mainly wrote The Panopticon in a flat in Peckham looking into her neighbour’s garden. She doesn’t mention it specifically, and I haven’t read the book, but from the bits you posted it sounds a lot like the Peckham Experiment might have influenced it.

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that’s so interesting (and not exactly shocking but still horrifying), thank you!  

Highlight of the night: dramatically reading fifty shades of grey to Andy because she’s never read it and she didn’t know it was twilight fan fiction. It is REALLY ENJOYABLE to read out loud.

The best feeling. Except fuck wearing underwear under boxers

The best feeling. Except fuck wearing underwear under boxers

Reading this on annaverity’s recommendation it’s so good, but stressful!

Reading this on annaverity’s recommendation it’s so good, but stressful!